Love=Bounderies

You've heard it over and over...

Love has no boundaries

But it should and it does.

Love = Boundaries

And a healthy relationship includes setting boundaries.

Talking about your boundaries with your partner is a great way to make sure your needs are met and you feel safe and secure.

Things to keep in mind are:

1. Emotional- when to say the "l" word (I love you), space apart, time together, time with other friends, time for hobbies and sports, what to share, when to share

2. Physical- knowing how to take your time, knowing how far to go, understanding that sex isn't currency and you don't "owe" your partner anything, setting limits

3. Digital- this is a big one in today's digital world and the digital generation. It's important to have boundaries with checking in, posting relationship status, tagging partner in photos, sharing pictures, following friends, when to text and when to return text, using each other devices, post, tweet, comment about relationship, posting pictures.

Boundaries are unique and different for everyone. It is so important to communicate with your partner what your boundaries are and what you are comfortable with. He/she can't read your mind- speak up.

What boundaries are important to you?

Best to all,

Becca

Do You Know the Facts? Teen Dating Violence

...With his hand at the base of my neck, he pulled me close and kissed me on the forehead. Moving his hand to my jaw line, he raised my chin. I met his eyes.
"I love you," he repeated. "I would never hurt you." He stepped back and smiled.
When he walked away, I was left standing there, wondering why I believed him when my arm was throbbing in pain.

Break From You (available at Amazon.com)


The only statistic I'm going to throw at you is this one...

Mostly because this is shocking. 1 in 3 you ask???? Yep, 1 in 3. And that is way too many.

Some teens don't know the difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy relationship. Do you?

Being able to tell the difference is not easy. And maybe that's because most of us don't talk about it. But it's time to talk. 

Let's start with some of the most common warning signs...

• Checking cell phones, emails or social networks without permission
• Extreme jealousy or insecurity
• Constant belittling or put-downs
• Explosive temper
• Isolation from family and friends
• Making false accusations
• Erratic mood swings
• Physically inflicting pain or hurt in any way
• Possessiveness
• Telling someone what to do
• Repeatedly pressuring someone to have sex

It isn't always easy to tell if you/or someone you know is in an abusive relationship. And I know it's hard sometimes to start that conversation. But we need to. 

Dating Abuse doesn't always look like this:

So let's chat.

Best to all,

Becca

If you or someone you know is in an unhealthy or abusive relationship, please get help.

Visit loveisrespect.org for more information

February is...Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

February is Teen Dating Violence (DV) Awareness Month! 

This topic is important to me. Not only is it a major topic in my first novel, Break From You, but all too often our teens are subject to dating violence...and they may not even know it. Sometimes teens don't know what a healthy relationship is and think the violence, manipulation, and control is normal. 

But it isn't. And it's time to teach our teens and young adults otherwise. 

Learn the facts.

Join the cause.

Save the date and mark your calendars for this year's :

Wear orange day- February 9th. You are encouraged to wear orange and support the cause.

Twitter Chat- February 4th 3pm EST

Twitter Chat- February 18th 7pm EST

And National Respect Announcement on February 12th.

This years theme is...

 “Love = Setting Boundaries,” because boundaries are an important part of every healthy relationship.

From Loveisrespect.org:

Teen DV Month (sometimes called TDVAM) is a national effort to raise awareness about abuse in teen and 20-something relationships and promote programs that prevent it during the month of February.

Dating violence is more common than many people think. One in three teens in the U.S. will experience physical, sexual or emotional abuse by someone they are in a relationship with before they become adults. Help us spread awareness and stop dating abuse before it starts!

For more information please visit loveisrespect.org. This is an amazing site with wonderful information, lots of facts, and great support.

Get involved. Join the cause.

Best,

Becca

January May be Ending But Stalking Awareness Needs to Continue

Just like 7.5 million others in the United States, I have been a victim of stalking. And like 25% of those stalked, it was by someone I knew. I was watched from a distance, mostly online, and became a target of harassment.

Stalking is scary. 

Stalking is a crime.

And even though January is ending, continuing to raise awareness shouldn't.

It's important to keep the conversation going. The more we know, the more power we have.

Learn the facts. 

Help stop stalking.

Keep the conversation going.

January is...

For more information go to http://stalkingawarenessmonth.org/

Welcome Back!

WELCOME BACK EVERYONE!!!!

It's been a long, long time. Life has been crazy and happy and good. I took a much needed break away from blogging, posting, and social media. It was needed. I feel great. But I'm ready to be back.

And the future looks bright! 

So many exciting things are coming up. And I can't wait to get back into the grove.

First off, I am returning to blogging. You will see more of me here with lots of great information, upcoming events, new releases, and so much more. If you are interested in joining my email newsletter for more up-to-date information and pre-release news, please email Add to List to rebeccagreengasper@gmail

Second, I am starting an Indie Publishing blog. Back when I published my first novel, I knew nothing. And I mean nothing. So I really didn't think I had any right telling others how to do it. But now, 10 years after starting and 5 after becoming a published author, I want to share my stories. I am planning on talking about things that worked, things that didn't and sharing my continuing journey on this every changing path.

I also decided to join in on the fun in April and do the A-Z blogging challenged. I joined in a couple of years ago and loved how much fun it was. I can't wait to reconnect with familiar faces and meet new people.

I am excited to announce that the first book in my new adult series, The Harley Files, will be released this spring. Check back often for new information and behind the scenes stories.

I have also embarked in a new adventure. I am the founder and editor-in-chief of a new online gluten free magazine. We will cover everything from going gluten free to baking, cooking, and much more. We are working hard to get everything ready to go live soon. If you are interested in gluten free information. Stay tuned.  

I can't wait to see more of everyone, and I'm looking forward to reconnecting.

WELCOME BACK!!

Here's to seizing the day!

Best to all,

Becca